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…This week I’m sitting down with bestselling author Jacqueline Pirtle to talk about her fantastic book “Parenting Through the Eyes of Lollipops.” She is one of the most positive, energetic, joyful people I have ever met and has an amazing perspective on parenting. She is full of wisdom, and great energy and this is a great episode for any parent to enjoy!
… This asks for a shift in your relationship with them and in truth, parents, it starts with you. Good thing is, it is easier than you think!
During this intense and changing time it is important to understand the incredible gifts this situation bears. Gifts to re-evaluate your relationship with yourself, your children, your husband or partner, and further the family as a whole, even with your own parents.
In order to be open to such a shift you must first set aside all that was, all that ever happened, and let go of all your old beliefs and old ways and look only at “right now,” making this the only truth that you accept and will work with.
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…I will admit that I was kind of skeptical going in as it seemed like the more I read, the more her ideology was in contrast to how I was raised and what I feel is the right way of parenting- that I am the parent and my kids are kids and must listen and follow my lead. Pirtle argues that children and their parents are equals in this life of parenting and there are times that one is the student and one is the teacher and vice-versa. It is a harmonious dance in which the child and parent are equal participants.
…Pirtle offers 3 pillars of beliefs that summarize her parenting advice–The Harmonious Dance, It is Never the Child, and The Love Cycle of Parenthood. The pillars offer joyful, energized ways to be a better parent and a better participant in whatever level of parenthood you are in (including before you conceive, when your child is a baby, young child, teenager and adult). They remind you to enjoy the role of being a parent to your greatest blessings.
…I personally needed that particular reminder and I picked up several tidbits that I believe will help me in my parenting journey with the kiddos. Ideologies that will hopefully help bring back my joy as a mom and allow me to have a better relationship with my children.
Thanks BooksByWomen for featuring me and my new book “Parenting Through the Eyes of Lollipops!” I really appreciate it! Go check them out, they are awesome!
…It’s not often I get time to sit down and read nowadays. Making time to sit and read Parenting Through the Eyes of Lollipops by Jacqueline Pirtle has been pretty life-changing – you might think that’s a bit of a bold statement but it really has been!
…When I began reading Parenting Through the Eyes of Lollipops by Jacqueline Pirtle, I was mildly sceptical about how this book would be. I assumed it was a “perfect parenting” “you must do this to have happy children” type of books – boy was I wrong.
…I feel that reading Parenting Through the Eyes of Lollipops has truly helped me to become the best parent I can be. It’s made me realise how my own childhood had blurred the way I was parenting my own children too. By following the three pillars outlined in the book, you will be taken on a different and probably more enjoyable journey through parenting from day one – although you can totally pick up this book at any point of your parenting journey too as it covers all stages of a child’s life.
Thanks Mama Home Life for your honest insight!
For her full review check out the link below 🙂
Parents spending time with their children, everyone playing and laughing is a wonderful sight to imagine, to witness, and to be in.
Parents spending time with their children, everyone is unhappy, feels not heard, disrespected, not valued, or not loved–a sight that is very familiar for any parent and if you could ask the children, they would all say “yep, been there, done that.”
This can be really testing – for both the parents and the children – but who I really want to reach here is the parents because I firmly stand with the belief that it is never the child.
When you are a parent that is interacting with a rebellious child (no matter the age) it means that your child is standing firmly with their own mindset, personal preferences, and unique ways to do things while you are standing firm ground with your ways. Many times it ends in disagreement, tears, and hurt hearts, while seeming impossible to find common ground–yet there are unlimited hidden gifts, especially for the parents, in such a high and intense energetic situation.
“Gifts?” You might say.
Yes gifts! Not the ones you get for Christmas or your special birthday. Even bigger and more infinite gifts! Presents that will last you a lifetime if you consciously open up to accept and receive them.
Any rebellion from a child is the purest gift, because it shows you very clearly and with no remorse that you are overstepping their soul-being by wanting them to do something that is not fitting for them. If it would be the right thing for them they would happily do it! Their act of rebelling turns into your phenomenal opportunity to turn inward, take responsibility, re-evaluate your ways, your preferences, your mindset, and how you feel about it all. It is a chance for you to modernize yourself into a more fitting you.
Sure, there is the thought of keeping them safe – for instance when crossing a street – and that is where you take over and keep them safe.
But most of the time it is not about keeping them safe, rather it is about the parents being used to doing something a certain way without ever questioning or remodeling to new ways. Many times it’s also about parents wanting to be right, so they are telling the children how it has to be done. And sometimes it’s because adults think that children are helpless and need to be helped–parents are better and know better.
Those are the situations that I am talking about, when remembering that your children are very intelligent soul beings, here in this physical life with an always available and very smart soul guidance, and their own important soul pathway to live, offers every parent a gracious gift. I say receive and run with it–by turning inward and leaving them be, by meeting them in the middle, or by simply just trusting in your children’s ways.
Lets talk about the gift of turning inward, because let’s face it, we all love gifts!
The trick is that in order to find these gifts and turn them into the best thing that ever happened for both, you and your children, you as the parent must understand and acknowledge that every child is a truth mirror for the parent–showing you what is going on in you. You must be willing to take full responsibility of unlocking this incredible gift that is offered to you by your stubborn child through turning inward and searching in you – and only in you – for what this truth holds for you. Questions like, “What is this showing me?” or “How do I feel about this and why do I feel about it this way?” are worth gold here.
Your children never make you feel a certain way, instead all your feelings are already in you–your child simply helps dig them up because you are ready for them, so claim your own feelings, they are yours to feel and heal.
Just as happy feelings are dug up by your children when you watch them play and laugh, unhappy feelings are dug up by interacting with them too. Given, happy feelings are easier to latch onto, feel, and enjoy. By understanding that unhappy feelings bear great gifts for you, it only makes sense to recognize, feel, and enjoy the full joy of them too–truth unveiling and healing accomplished. From that space of positivity – your heart and soul space – you can meet your child wherever they are. If they already are in their heart and soul space, you are matching up to meet them in the best place ever. If they are not in their heart and soul space, you are giving them the chance to arrive there too. Either way, it’s a win win.
Here are some ground rules and a game-plan to interact with your children from different stages that you could find yourself in:
A rebellious child has gifts for you to accept and receive.
There is great healing for you in difficult situations with your children.
Take full responsibility of your feelings.
Get your soul being into your happy place before facing your children.
Be generous with your love, spread it plentifully to your children.
Smile and laugh often and choose to have fun over anything else.
When you are already in your happy place, go for it, interact with your children and know that you are co-creating magic with them that will show itself as more magic, endless laughter, and loads of fun.
When you are only partly in your happy place, take a minute to close your eyes and feel your energetic essence of your pure positive energy through a short meditation, feeling into your breath, taking a walk, lifting some weights or other well-feeling exercises, drink some water, eat because being hangry never helps, listen to music, or simply smile and feel yourself heightening in your frequency–then interact with your children. The outcome will be satisfying, no matter the subject of discussion.
When you are far off your happy place and can’t even feel or attempt to believe in your magical well-feeling space, it is best to change the timing for solving anything to when things are better for you. Nothing good comes out of a parent who is not in a good place, wanting to sort anything out with a child, because your very supportive child will rebel to show you how far off your soul path you are–because that is how much they love you.
That IS Parenting Through the Eyes of Lollipops!
The most harmonious way to parent.
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Parenting Through the Eyes of Lollipops—reading of a chapter.