Because with your old and untrue luggage of emotions it is almost impossible to squeeze the gold out of being 24/7 together and on top of each other. Add in everyone else’s feelings, worry, and fear and you have a mob that is running wild and deeply unhappy.
As a homeschool parent who homeschooled the kids for a long time – meaning we were on top of each other for many years – I can tell you that it is of utmost importance to firstly realize and embrace the profound growth opportunity for everyone that a time like that holds.
This growth asks for you to trust; to trust that you got this, that your kids got this; and that life in itself has got this, moving your old ways of worrying for your children and thinking that your kids need you to teach them everything – since they are so new to this physical life and simply don’t know anything – aside. That’s a good thing, because these untrue ways keep you from taking a wonderful leap of trusting and believing in them fully, the result being, no new shift can happen, no new relationship can happen, and no new family situation can happen. Ever. Everything stays same old…
And while we’re at it, what are your old ways built on anyway? Old believes, old habits, and old recordings from back in time that are antique to the point of being rusty and untrue, and probably having been like that for a very long time.
Untrue, I can say that word with absolute certainty because let’s face it, until something new is tried and then proven wrong the old is only a habit or a belief––many times an unproven and untrue one, as it simply is just the way we have been doing it all along.
You have not seen your children in such an intense time yet, because such a time never has happened. Saying that they need lots of structure, rules, schedules, and your teachings is just an old way of thinking and living. It’s how it always was until now! So why not take that leap of trust and dig into this “gift of time” fully, and allow this available shift in you and for your relationship with your kids by throwing yourself deeply into the magic of 100% trusting in them?
What an opportunity for you and for them – heck, for the whole world – to make a new and fresh plan that is free of the old belief that kids need to be told what to do all day long.
I say, take this incredible chance of being together and on top of each other 27/4 to rewrite EVERYTHING––go ahead and create a freer version of yourself, your children, and your whole family by getting yourself out of your children’s way and trusting 100% that your kids got this life.
Here is an excerpt of my book Parenting Through the Eyes of Lollipops that explains why you can safely give into this idea:
The only two differences between parents and children are that the former gives physical life to the latter – making them a parent and the birthed one the child – and the timing of everyone’s physical arrival and presence on this physical earth. That’s it!
Being that we are all the same, possess the same soul guidance, and are all here for the same reason, it is obvious that nobody owns anyone—rather, everyone and everything is here to experience co-living, co-existing, co-creating, co-experiencing, and co-expanding.
No-one is less and no-one is more! Ever!
So how do you tackle this 100% trusting? Again, best explained though an excerpt of my book:
An important first step for a parent is to relax and know that you really are wonderful just by being here and by being present—ready for your new life as a parent or ready to shift into a new way as a parent. You ARE magnificent!
I invite you to say, think, and feel the following words often:
“I AM a phenomenally powerful parent with a deep inner guidance and an infinite capability to love!”
Really breathe into these words, and feel your shift to being and living in a frequency of peaceful-ness, open-ness, pure-ness, right-ness, and good-ness—your heart space and your soul being.
Acknowledge that you are NOT here to impress anyone, anything, or life itself––especially not your children. You are here to simply BE; nothing else. Feel the release of all resistance and the pressure-free space that you create for yourself by acknowledging this.
So what does to BE or not to BE really mean?
Do you think to BE means you have to have hard times and BE miserable? I surely hope not, because to BE clearly means to feel well, to be happy, to enjoy, and to feel excited about your existence and expansion. Just think about how well you feel by reading the first few paragraphs about your magnificence, and how wonderful it feels to acknowledge that all you have to do is BE your soul being which is pure positive energy.
Now shift your focus to your children. Let them – born or unborn – know that they too are wonderful and magnificent just as they ARE. Fill them in, that coming into this physical life means they are here to BE themselves—nothing else. Let your child know of this magic and well-feeling through loving and uplifting words, thoughts – every thought is energy that is shared – actions, happenings, and, for older children, through explanation and education.
Make well-feeling a priority for you because it spreads to your children, filling every single cell of their whole being – body, mind, soul, consciousness – with goodness, and it returns that high-for-life energy to you like a boomerang.
Think about the incredible power that is used to lift a sinking ship to be afloat again—you feeling wonderful is that power that can lift any child to be emotionally afloat again.
Feeling wonderful IS powerful!
I truly hope that these words help you to enjoy this immensely valuable 24/7 family time freely and with lots of laughter. I also encourage you to pick up a copy of my book, Parenting Through the Eyes of Lollipops, as it has many more ways to shift to being happier as parents, and witness happier children because of it.